Tuesday, March 17, 2009
Housework Genie
Why do couples always end up fighting about the same things? Year after year... the same thing. We never get past it. I am never the one who starts it, because it is always my fault. But you would think after 12 years my partner in life would figure out who I am and just accept it. I am not the queen of clean. I think I keep a marginally clean house. I feel I do better than most, even. But it is never good enough... I do not blame him. I blame his mother for being an incredible house keeper and impossible to keep up with. How can I improve? Especially when I don't have any clue what I am doing wrong? Any ideas? And don't turn this into "he just needs to accept it." He won't. He hasn't for 12 years. It ain't gonna happen. So I need to be the one to change... except I am trying to change my eating and exercising habits... do I have to change my housework habits too?
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How ridiculous. You don't need to change. Just keep fighting about it. You keep a VERY clean house. As long as you are holding down a job outside the home you should bring up the point that when he complains about the house not being clean it would be like you saying every day to him that he doesn't make enough money. I know you will never say this this to him and that is essentially why you got into this position in the first place. Love ya, though!! :)
okay, here's an idea....let jus know that you are working on 2 life changes right now and will be happy to concentrate on the house cleaning when the other 2 challenges are under control. Also, ask for suggestions as to what he sees that needs to be done, that you are not doing? He needs to be specific. We are not blessed with spousal mind reading powers!
I completely understand. Paul grew up in a clean home (they also had a maid that came in). It is hard to keep a clean home with kids and you work outside of the home. Basically I have no advice.... I am just agreeing with you!!
I think it is great that you are trying to change and improve. Now ask him what he is working on to change and improve...
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